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You have accumulated many valuable points; They also asked a number of questions.
You deserve a detailed and complete response to the many topics you covered. We will only kindly mention that the live session is limited in time and space, forcing us to give short answers. That doesn't do justice to your questions.
Therefore, we will forward your questions to our experts so that they have time and answer as best as possible, insha'Allah.
We have a small observation; They kindly mentioned that our merciful Creator, Allah Almighty, "is not interested in guiding us". If that were the case, He would not have led you to send us your questions, and He would not have led us to want to do everything in our power to help you...
Allah always guides us; sometimes, however, we do not pay attention to its signals.
{And how many signs in the heavens and on the earth pass away as they go away.}(Quran 12:105)
We respect and value your feelings, emotions and struggles.
Since you mentioned that you are taking medication, we thought we should forward your question to our specialist. However, we also advise you to seek professional help through therapy. There is nothing wrong with reaching out to professionals to help you heal and cope with what you are going through.
We can all feel overwhelmed at times. It is best to express feelings and thoughts with someone trained to manage them in the best way possible for your own emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health and well being.
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Regarding the marital situation, it is absolutely incredible that out of respect and obedience on your part, you tend to obey your parents. However, in Islam we learn that marriage cannot be forced in any way.You have every right not to go through with it.
It is not good for you or the woman to go through with the marriage if you are not happy, ready, or comfortable. Nothing in this religion forces you to obey your parents by marrying someone against your will.
It's worth noting that the fact that she's divorced isn't the issue.There is absolutely no shame in being divorced, not even a little bit. The problem, however, is that you do not want this marriage. Reason enough not to continue.
Insha'Allah he will find someone to love and respect and look forward to. The Kingdom of Allah is huge and He can take care of you. I know you don't want to hear this right now but I'll be 100% honest with you because I speak from experience and I know things can seem downright sad, boring, depressing, so Allah provides for people where I never have would have expected . I have personally witnessed this several times. That's why I say this.
We all experience different types of emotions, and our iman (belief) ebbs and flows. AlhamduliAllah, Allah is merciful and patient with us. Even the moments of sadness you go through will be rewarded.
Abu Said and Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (ﷺ) said:
Never is a believer afflicted with discomfort, sickness, fear, emotional pain or sorrow, or even a thorn prick; but Allah will atone for your sins because of your patience. [Al-Bujar and Muslim]
To briefly answer some of the questions you asked:
- "Why is ALLAH doing all this to me despite His lofty claim to love people 70 times more than a mother's love?"
Read these answers which provide a more detailed analysis:
Why do bad things happen to good people?
If we didn't suffer, we wouldn't appreciate blessings!
Deal with difficulties optimally!
Hajar's incredible story and how it is relevant to you
[Finding Peace and Contentment - Part 1]: What Does It Mean to Be Blessed?
[Finding Peace and Contentment - Part 3]: How Our Words Affect Our Hearts
- "Why does ALLAH only care whether 5 times salad, 30 days of fasting, Hajj pilgrimage?"
He's not worried. He doesn't need it. We need this. If the doctor prescribes a healthy eating plan, you will not benefit. But we will. Through his knowledge he tells us what is useful to us. See this answer for more information.
Why are your belief requirements?
- "Why did you create me without my knowledge and permission?"
The following videos by a former atheist professor, Jeffrey Lang, may provide comprehensive answers to many of your questions. He seemed to have many of the same questions you are currently facing. So please give him a chance to see you whenever he can.
The Purpose of Life - Jeffrey Lang
Jeffrey Lang - From Atheism to Faith: A Journey to Islam in North America
- "Where is Allah when we need him?"
He is always there, listening and listening. And if you are patient and keep the faith, everything can and will change for the better.
{For indeed, with difficulty [there will be] ease. Indeed, with the difficulty [will] be the ease.}(Quran 94:5-6)
- „Why did you create dunya, nafs and shaytaan? Is it to betray us and then punish us and take pleasure in seeing us cry?
You're welcome. He says:
{What would Allah do with your punishment if you were thankful and believed? And Allah is always grateful and wise.}(Quran 4:147)
And he says:
{And indeed, We honor the children of Adam and carry them over land and sea and provide them with good things and favor them with [ultimate] preference over many things We have created.}(Quran: 17, 70)
{It was He who created everything on earth for you.}(Quran 2:29)
Allah has prepared eternal happiness and rewards for us; every moment of difficulty in this passing life is rewarded. Everything is on our side. When teachers give students difficult tests, is it to humiliate them and enjoy watching them cry?
No, because they know they are capable of performing these tests; and because those who pass the toughest trials are the most honorable, respected, and successful of all.
- "Why do we always have to repent even though we have no sin?"
Why do we always wash our clothes or clean our homes? It's supposed to keep them clean and fresh. We must always keep our hearts pure and fresh, and cleanse them of any possible evils or possible defects. It increases our spirituality and gives us peace. That can't hurt.
- “Why good things always have to happen after this life. Why not on earth?
Don't good things happen in this life too? I see this all the time. You will see it too if you look for it. Please be patient and hope.
{For them it is good news in the worldly life and in the hereafter. Nothing changes in the words of Allah. This is the great achievement.}(Quran 10:62)
- "I have no interest in life. It is good that I have not prayed for many years, otherwise Allah will continue to torture me in the name of tests and exams."
That's the saddest part of it all. Cutting ties with the source of life is death itself. I know you don't feel like it and I know you have many angry and questioning feelings, but if there is any sincere advice I would give you, our brother, then it is to pray. Pray and pray and pray.
Get over that anger and resentment and talk to Allah. If he wanted to torment you he would have taken your soul or left you to die in disbelief but he gives you life and he gives you time and I know you don't want to believe it but I've seen it happen to me. Eyes that even after extreme difficulties, people's lives can COMPLETELY change for the better.
Allah can give you love, hope, meaning, peace of mind whatever you want for your serenity and can give you back your rights. Everything can change for the better. But it changes the way you perceive Allah.
I swear that He is our most loving, compassionate and beautiful Creator. Don't let Shaitan say otherwise. Allah is near and He is watching you and He will heal you. Please just hold on and change this perception of Allah. If you believe in Him and believe that goodness will come, it will come. And if you believe otherwise, then that's what you get.
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
Allah says: 'I am as My servant thinks of Me when he thinks of Me.' By Allah! Allah is more pleased with the repentance of his servant than with one of you who unexpectedly finds his camel lost in the desert. Who approaches me a span, I approach him an elbow; and whoever approaches me an elbow, I approach him a fathom; and if he comes to me walking, I will come to him running.[Al-Bujar and Muslim].
You are strong and brave enough. Nothing says life will go on as you have described. Nothing can take away your hope. You can change everything for the better, and God will help you.
Anger and resentment bring nothing but darkness. Hope brings more hope and more light. Please make the right decision.
I hope it helps.
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FAQs
What does Islam say about suffering? ›
Muslims attribute the moral quality of suffering (the badness or evil thereof) only to human action. Everything else is under God's direct control and therefore, despite all delusions to the contrary, perfect in design. Physical pain and ailment are common to human life.
What did Allah create us from? ›The Qur'an describes how Allah created Adam: "We created man from sounding clay, from mud moulded into shape..." (15:26). And, "He began the creation of man from clay, and made his progeny from a quintessence of fluid" (32:7-8). Thus, human beings have a fundamental attachment to the earth.
Why do Allah test us? ›Tests bring out the best/worst in us - Tests are the means by which Allah (SWT) distinguishes between us because they bring out the best or worst in us. How we help to expose our faith and lack of faith. These tests are meant to purify us - Tests are not a punishment. They are a part of His infinite mercy.
What did Allah create on each day? ›Abu Haraira reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) took hold of my hands and said: Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, created the clay on Saturday and He created the mountains on Sunday and He created the trees on Monday and He created the things entailing labour on Tuesday and created light on Wednesday ...
Is suffering a part of life Islam? ›How do Muslims respond to evil and suffering? Many Muslims believe they are only on Earth for a short time. This life is a test from Allah where they must endure evil and suffering as preparation for Paradise .
What Allah says about pain? ›The Prophet said, "No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that."
What is the real purpose of life in Islam? ›In Islam, man's ultimate life objective is to worship the creator Allah SWT (English: God) by abiding by the Divine guidelines revealed in the Qur'an and the Tradition of the Prophet. Earthly life is merely a test, determining one's afterlife, either in Jannah (Paradise) or in Jahannam (Hell).
Does Allah forgive all sins? ›Despair not of the Mercy of Allah: for Allah forgives all sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. Again, God says to the believers in a Hadith Qudsi: "O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me, and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind.
Why did God create us? ›He created people out of love for the purpose of sharing love. People were created to love God and each other. Additionally, when God created people, he gave them good work to do so that they might experience God's goodness and reflect his image in the way they care for the world and for each other.
When Allah takes someone away from you? ›If Allah takes away someone from your life, be patient. There is good in it which you cannot see now or maybe you will not see it ever. Hold onto the truth that what Allah does is ALWAYS for our benefit and wade through life. You will find happiness if you place your trust in Allah in much better things, in shaa Allah.
What does Allah say about hard times? ›
We know from the Qur'an that when we remember Allah in good times, Allah will help us in tough times. We learn that lesson from the story of Prophet Yunus (peace be upon him) when he was swallowed by a whale.
What is the first thing Allah built? ›We have come to ask you about this matter (i.e. the start of creations)." He said, "First of all, there was nothing but Allah, and (then He created His Throne). His throne was over the water, and He wrote everything in the Book (in the Heaven) and created the Heavens and the Earth." Then a man shouted, "O Ibn Husain!
What is the first thing Allah created? ›According to Islamic tradition, “the first thing God created was the pen,” and McWilliams emphasized the role of writing tools, often made of precious and exotic materials, in her talk.
How old is the universe according to Islam? ›According to Michael Cook "early Muslim scholars" believed the amount of finite time creation had been assigned was about "six or seven thousand years" and that perhaps all but 500 years or so had already passed.
Is pain a blessing from Allah? ›Almighty Allah creates everything for a reason and with goodness. The disease of not feeling any pain is also one of the best examples of this perfect creation; if Almighty Allah had not created such a disease, no one would know that pain is actually a great blessing for the protection of the body.
What religion is based on suffering? ›The 'Four Noble Truths' of Buddhism are about dukkha, a term often translated as suffering. They state the nature of suffering, its cause, its cessation, and the way leading to its cessation, the Noble Eightfold Path.
What does Islam say about being sad? ›The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: “No person suffers any anxiety or grief and says this supplication, but Allah will take away his sorrow and grief, and give him in their stead joy. Having said that, however, Muslims are not immune to the feeling of grief or depression.
Do you feel pain in Jannah? ›The characteristics of Jannah often have direct parallels with those of Jahannam. The pleasure and delights of Jannah described in the Quran, are matched by the excruciating pain and horror of Jahannam.
How does God use your pain? ›God has used our pain to strengthen us and encourage others to trust God and believe that he is working despite what we see.
How does God respond to our pain? ›The cross is God's ultimate response to the brokenness of humanity – and that includes your pain and suffering. He walks through every season of life with you, seeing that exhaustion and frustration life can bring, reminding you that He is so compassionate towards you that He's already responded.
What does Islam say about end of life? ›
In Islam, death is seen as a natural event, and one's life is lived in preparation for the next. Sickness at the end of life may be painful or uncomfortable, or it may be peaceful and pain-free. However it happens, it's considered to be part of one's journey toward the end of life on earth.
What does Allah say about being sad? ›The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: “No person suffers any anxiety or grief and says this supplication, but Allah will take away his sorrow and grief, and give him in their stead joy. Having said that, however, Muslims are not immune to the feeling of grief or depression.
What does Islam say about despair? ›In a Hadith of Ali al-Ridha is came that the despair is the second major sin and the Disappointment is the third major sin and they are different. In the some sources in the difference between these two words are came despair is the internal feel in the person's heart.
What do religions say about suffering? ›Suffering is considered as something sent to a man by God, and if so, any suffering is inevitable and must be endured: “Bear suffering, therefore, as the good warrior of Jesus Christ” [14]. Besides, sufferings endured by a person teaches him to be condescending to other people. So sufferings improve a person.